I am leaving the faith.
I am walking out of the healing water of God, pulling myself up upon the thirsty bank--clothing my flesh in fig leaves and am going to sit and stare into the water until I can decide if I want to believe in the gospel anymore.
I am returning to blemishes; willing to risk it.
As Laura F. Winner writes:
"I [am willing] to walk away from God in hopes I will find Him."
I cannot continue my toxic relationship with Christianity any longer.
"I [am willing] to walk away from God in hopes I will find Him."
I cannot continue my toxic relationship with Christianity any longer.
This is my vulnerability.
I think I slipped into a cult mentality within my Christian community this year. I am a fan of urban ministry. The worship feels authentic, the sub-cultures within its targeted demographic are appealing to me due to their appreciation of the arts. [24 hours away from home and stifled by the legalism of a conservative bible college ] I sought family in a new setting full of creatives, visionaries, eccentrics...misfits.
"Finally! People who see the Lord as I do!"
I ventured off into a new core of beliefs with the misunderstanding that I would be loved for who I am. In the beginning I was taught that I was valuable to the community: I was safe to live in authenticity...
Until I did.
Over the past year my authenticity has been criticized, ostracized, critiqued and abandoned. Somehow, in my vulnerability I was threatening, sickening and considered "unsafe." I learned quickly I was as valuable as my ability to be projected upon. In the beginning, I was of great worth: A wet-behind-the-ears, 22-year-old, blank slate. The people-pleaser in me took great pride in my ability to be a chameleon: I just wanted someone to love me. As the year went on and relationships within my community grew more toxic, I became afraid:
"These people have power over me,"
I thought,
"Power to determine whether I can find a place to live when I graduate, power to help me find a job [or destroy a job opportunity], and power to determine whether [or not] I have friends."
I thought,
"Power to determine whether I can find a place to live when I graduate, power to help me find a job [or destroy a job opportunity], and power to determine whether [or not] I have friends."
A recent examination of the above belief has suddenly left me frantic:
I have been living out of the fear for the past year. So much so, that for the past 6 weeks I have completely ostracized myself from everyone I know. At what point does a person stop to identify this as a red flag? Whether said individuals meant to have a strong hold over my life [or not] does not take away from the fact that they did.
I am responsible for letting them.
In "Still: Notes on a Mid-Faith Crisis," Laura F. Winner is shamed by the church after her divorce. She writes on how--even in love--people would backhandedly scorn her. In turn, Winner [like myself] turned to wine and the poetry of Sexton [for awhile] to show her a true picture of God. I want a true picture of the higher being.
The irony? I have yet to finish the book.
I assume by reading the title "Mid-Faith" indicates that she is still a believer.
I do not know if I will be.
This weekend, I was challenged by a friend to reconsider Christ as the messiah. Together, we began reading Eckhart Tolle's "A New Earth," and certain things in the book resonated with me on a level that has left me in a tailspin. I can honestly say throughout the sorrow, fear, anger and heaviness of my spiritual journey I have never questioned Christ.
I am now questioning everything.
I am terrified by this.
I am not asking for letters to sway my opinion. In fact, I am asking for the opposite.
This year it has been reiterated to me that I am too broken to serve God.
I do not know that I am willing to serve any power that sees me as a broken, screwed up mess.
Abba Father,
I pray that if you're real, you will come and sit with me while I ponder these things. I pray that the power of the Holy Spirit would move in me and help me distinguish Your face. If You do not come, I will know that You are just something--someone [out of hopelessness one day]--made up in their head.
Save me Father,
If I was ever your daughter.
If I was ever your daughter.